Safiyya Bint Hoyaii, one of the Prophet's wives, went to Aishah one day because the Prophet was angry with her for something. She said to Aishah:
.Oh Aishah! Would you ask the Prophet to forgive me and I will give you my day with him?.
She got up and dressed in a nice dress that was adorned with saffron, a plant that has the smell of perfume. She sprinkled it with water so that the smell would create an aroma. She then approached the Prophet (pbuh) and sat beside him. He said: Aishah move away from me for today is not your day.. She told him about the deal between her and Safiyya. She shrugged and said: .He [Allah] bestows it upon whom He wills.. (Surat Al Jumu.ah, 4). The Prophet (pbuh) laughed and forgave Safiyya.
Source: "Glimpses From the Lives of the Sahaba and Tabi'een, 'A'ishah, Mother of the Believers." By Dr. M. Jilani. Taiba Publishers, 2003.
Are there proof that women not girls at the time of the Salaf danced on 'Eid or at weddings
Respected Shaykh, may Allah give you success: on the days following Eid, some people organize gatherings for women where the simple hand drum (al-duff) is used and there is dancing and singing. [The women] say these are the days of Eid and it is allowed to use al-duff, dance and sing without using [other] musical instruments; how correct is this?
Brother, the day of Eid is one day, not a number of days. The days of Eid Al-Ad-ha and Eid Al-Fitr are a one day for each. The Days of Tashriq that follow the day of Eid Al-Ad-ha are not days of Eid, they are not called Days of Eid; these are the Days of Tashriq. These people [being asked about] want to revive drums, musical instruments and singing, they call them the Days of Eid. This is a lie about the Shariah; this behaviour is not allowed not for men and not for women.
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May Allah's benevolence be upon you, respected Shaykh, the enquirer asks: In the tape shops there are tapes where there are recordings of al-duff being played accompanied by young women / teenage girls saying nashids. Teenage girls and women listen to these tapes on Eid with the excuse that al-duff is allowed on the Day of Eid. What is the ruling on this?
The ruling is that this is not allowed. This [activity] teaches young women false frivolity and singing it spoils young Muslim women and makes them become silly. Accordingly, these tapes must be destroyed, they must be destroyed. Singing on Eid was not allowed by the Prophet Allahs praise and peace be upon him except for young girls; minors who were not legally liable for their actions. [They were] young girls, not females who were legally bound by Islamic law (i.e. those who had reached puberty). Women who are grown up and legally bound by the commandments of Islam are not permitted to sing or behave frivolously.
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