This is the delight of a journey to share knowlege with those who are thirsty of love ,fear and hope for Allah Azza wa Jal.May this be an humble quest for all of an quenching thirst for knowlege,and an endless request of help,understanding and Hidaya Taufiq from Allah.O treasurer of Knowlege may you all live the Blessing of this command 'Iqra !
iqra bismi rabbika ladhi khalaq...'
Be Patient with Your Wife, Tolerate Her for Her Merits and Advise Her
Fatwa no. 7475
Q:I have a very good wife who keeps up Salah (Prayer)
(Part No. 19; Page No. 237)
and observes Hijab (veil) in such a perfect manner that she has convinced all the women of our village to observe it. She has many good qualities but she makes some mistakes that I cannot overlook, lest they have a religious ruling. When she is angry, she curses me or my father, or utters things like, “May the Jinn harm you,” “I am not lawful to you”, or “It is not lawful for me to be your wife anymore.” Is it better for me to be patient? Are these words considered a serious violation of our marital duties?
A: If your wife is as righteous as you have mentioned, but she is afflicted with a foul mouth, you should tolerate her for the merits she has and advise her to avoid cursing and using foul language. You should urge her to perform Tawbah (repentance to Allah) and to avoid the reasons that cause her to get angry. Moreover, she must offer Kaffarah (expiation) for taking a false oath deeming her unlawful to you, but this has no effect on your marital relationship.
(Part No. 19; Page No. 238)
May Allah grant us success. May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, and Companions.